How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Make a Change

Ever told yourself, “I’m not that kind of person” or “I’ll never be able to do that”? Those little doubts are limiting beliefs—negative stories we repeat so often, they start to feel like truth. The good news? You don’t have to believe them.

Limiting beliefs often come from past experiences, fear, or things we’ve heard from others—but they’re not facts. The stories you tell yourself can change, and with that change, new possibilities open up.

What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs sound like:

👉 “I’m not smart enough to change careers.”

👉 “I’ll never stick to a workout routine.”

👉 “My body will never change.”

These beliefs don’t hold you back because they’re true—they hold you back because they shape how you act. If you believe you can’t, you probably won’t even try.

5 Steps to Reframe Limiting Beliefs

1. Notice the Thought

Pay attention to what your mind tells you when you think about making a change. Ask yourself:

What’s something I want to do but feel like I can't?

Where did this belief come from—me, or someone else?

Simply noticing these thoughts is the first step toward breaking them.

2. Challenge the Belief

Question the thought:

• Is this 100% true?

• Have I ever done something that proves this wrong?

• Would I say this to a friend who was doubting themselves?

Most limiting beliefs are based on fear, not facts.

3. Rewrite the Story

Replace limiting thoughts with ones that support growth:

🚫 “I’m not disciplined enough to work out.” → ✅ “I can build discipline one small habit at a time.”

🚫 “I'll never be confident speaking in public.” → ✅ “With practice, I can get better at speaking.”

🚫 “I'm too old to start something new.” → ✅ “It’s never too late to learn and grow.”

It might feel uncomfortable at first, but the more you repeat these new beliefs, the more natural they’ll become.

4. Take Small Actions

Action builds confidence. Start with small steps:

• Take a short walk if you believe you're not athletic.

• Research one online class if you're thinking of changing careers.

• Write down one positive thought every day if you're trying to shift your mindset.

Every small win proves to your brain that change is possible.

5. Surround Yourself with Positivity & Ask for Help

Growth is easier when you're not doing it alone. Seek out:

• People who encourage you

• Inspiring content that lifts you up

• Communities where others are working toward similar goals

Asking for help doesn’t mean you're weak—it means you're ready to grow.

Change Is Possible

Reframing limiting beliefs isn't about pretending things are easy—it's about believing you're capable, even when it feels hard. Small steps, positive thoughts, and the right support can help you break free from old stories and create a new reality.

So, what's one limiting belief you're ready to let go of?